Divorce Survival Tip: Learn to Laugh Again
Learning to laugh again is one of the steps to healing after your divorce. I know, easy for me to say when my divorce is in the past. When the wounds are fresh there are days when you think you’ll never laugh again. Let me assure you — you will.
Here are a few of the ways that women I’ve talked to have learned to add some much needed humor into their post divorce lives.
- Read “Heartburn” by Nora Ephron. In this book she tells the story of her own divorce. She was seven months pregnant when she discovered her husband was having an affair. A horrible situation to be sure. And yet, she tells the story in a way that will have you literally ROFL.
- Any of the Stephanie Plum novels by Janet Evanovich will make you laugh. Especially when reading about Grandma or Lula’s antics.
- Play with your kids. In many cases, mothers spend the most time with their children after a divorce. However, sometimes we get so busy with work, house cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, mowing the lawn, cooking and other endless tasks that we don’t actually enjoy the time we have with them.
- Most mothers I know look back to a time when their children were small and say, “I wish I had laughed more and bitched less.” I’ve never found anyone who said the opposite.
- So be in the moment with your kids. Build a castle with Legos. Make a fort with quilts. Color a picture in a coloring book. Buy some sidewalk chalk. You get the idea. Have fun! I guarantee after spending an hour of quality time with your young children you’ll have something to laugh about.
- This is also true if your children are teenagers. I called a friend of mine once who told me she couldn’t talk because she was playing a Zombies video game with her nineteen year old son and she was surrounded. I asked how many zombies were around her and she said, “two”. In other words, she never did well at the video game but she learned to enjoy playing and her son loved that she tried.
- A night out with the girls can also work wonders. Do you ever spend time with your tribe when you don’t laugh so hard you cry or even snort? Make time for these occasions.
- Turn on comedy central and find a comedian you like. If you’re a foodie try Jim Gaffigan. You’ll find yourself laughing hysterically over Hot Pockets. Another personal favorite is Gabriel Iglesias. (He’s fluffy, not fat!).
- Log in to Facebook and watch some cute animal videos. Log off before reading any political posts! (this is about laughing not raising your blood pressure!) The television shows Modern Family and Big Bang Theory are usually good for a few laughs. When all else fails watch Lucy and Ethel working at the chocolate factory.
- The main thing is; look for things to laugh about. Today’s hardship is tomorrow’s funny story. You know how it goes, “Someday you’ll laugh about this.” And it’s true. You will. Sometimes you have to look hard to find the humor, but it’s there.
- I understand these moments of laughter will be interspersed with tears. But “a joyful heart is good medicine.” Try and get your daily dose.