Forgiveness, I’ll say it right now, and I’ll say it again; forgiveness was the most difficult thing I ever done, and also the most confusing. I say confusing, because I thought it meant that I was saying everything that was done to me was okay, and that I had in someway been giving an approval or a thumbs up to all of the horrible stuff that came along in my marriage.. I thought I was saying that everything was acceptable to me, and I knew in my soul that it wasn’t. What I went on to learn was that forgiveness is not for my ex, forgiveness is for me! Watch my video and let me know if this helps put forgiveness into perspective for you. Let me know if this can set you free like it did for me!
The best thing that I ever did to move on from my past and let it go, was to write out an IOU of everything that I thought that my ex-husband owed me. I listed everything from honesty, integrity, fidelity, safety, love, and so much more. I wrote it all down on a key of paper that said “IOU” at the very top. You see, I have been owed money in my life and ripped up that IOU, I have had blenders and more borrowed from me that I never got back, and I wrote that off. What I needed to do was except that I was never going to get things on that list and so I simply ripped it up, and let it all go. Ripping up that list was the most freeing thing I ever did. Didn’t excuse what he did? No! Did it let me out of my cage, out of my prison? Absolutely! It was the best thing I ever did to move on from my divorce.
If you’d like to learn more about forgiveness, please watch the video and let me know your thoughts below.