DivorceRx with Liz Becker
Do you ever feel like you need to take a blood pressure medication when you talk to your ex? Want to stop hitting the medicine cabinet every time you hear from him or her? Communication with your ex-husband or your ex-wife can be challenging at best and a nightmare (to say the least) at worst. Let’s face it, if you could talk in a civilized manner, many of us would never have gotten a divorce in the first place. Do you ever wish you could just “hold it together” when your once “loved one turned Satan” gets on your last nerve? I have to tell you that I would LOVE to be able to smile every time my ex gets on my very last nerve. I would love to be able to dust myself off and move on without breaking a sweat. In this DivorceRx, mindset strategist Liz Becker, teaches us about how we filter everything determines our emotional state. It’s a pretty simple technique, and here is a quick sample of how we interpret something that just might be so innocent, but is filtered by us as something quite different..
AND THAT IS TYPING IN ALL CAPS! TO ME, IT SEEMS LIKE I AM YELLING. IT SEEMS (TO ME AT LEAST) THAT I AM HOT TEMPERED AND ANGRY AS I TYPE THIS! IS THAT YOUR INTERPRETATION? IS THAT YOUR FILTER? I SAID…IS THAT YOUR INTERPRETATION?
I’m not…I’m just being my same old sweet self, and hit the “caps lock” button to prove a point. If you are like me, you filtered that last paragraph as me being a jerk…yelling at you as I typed it, bringing your blood pressure up, making you upset and now you want to strike back. It seems like I was angry…but I wasn’t. When I stop to think about how many times I’ve “filtered” text conversations or Facebook posts as yelling, it just might be my own filter getting in my way, and changing my emotional state. When my ex gives me some blood pressure raising conversations, it’s MY filter that determines how I react, and I can change the filter that I use so that I can manage HOW I react. It’s up to me, (and it’s up to you) how you filter the communication from your ex.
Want to be able to be able to manage your emotional states, and your emotional reaction? Take a listen to Liz on this video so you can have better communication and manage your emotional responses with your ex and your children. No more yelling. No more high blood pressure moments. Just plain old control over yourself!
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