The Power of “What If?”

How long will you beat yourself up with "what if"?

The Power of “What if?”

There are moments in our life when we all ask “what if?” Going through a divorce is a prime example of one of those times. The questions and regrets haunt us.

  • What if I’d married someone else?
  • What if I’d tried harder?
  • What if my ex hadn’t cheated?
  • What if I’d finished college?
  • What if I’d turned left instead of right?
  • One of the tricky parts of life is we never get to see where the alternate paths might have led. We can only wonder.

The problem with this type of “what if?” thinking is it leaves you trapped in the past.

The truth is — it doesn’t matter what might have happened because that period of your life is over.

You are where you are now. That’s it. You can’t go back, can’t change your choices or relive your past.


Don’t waste another moment wondering about what might have been.

Learn to live and enjoy the life you have right now.

“What if’s” are powerful because they can keep you trapped in the past and worrying about things you can’t change.

However, “what if’s” can also empower you when you use them to think about your future.

  • What if you went back to college and got your degree?
  • What if you find out you enjoy being single?
  • What if you meet the love of your life soon?
  • What if you start your own business?
  • What if you finish writing that book you started?
  • I’m not talking about just day dreaming. I’m talking about creating your future.

It all starts with a dream, but it can’t end there.

Dreams have to lead to actions.

Actions lead to change and eventually results.

So when you’re tempted to “what if?” about your past. STOP!

Start to “what if” about the future. What would you like to accomplish in your life? What would you like to finish? What would you like to learn?

Then start taking action. NOW.

You don’t have to take a huge step but do something.

Go online to a local college and check out the degree plans.

Read blogs about women and men who started their own businesses.

Sign up on a dating site and see if you meet anyone interesting.

Go to the library and check out a book on how to play the guitar.

Take a sketch pad and go to the park.

Any big accomplishment is achieved by taking small steps. Once the momentum starts it will increase with each step you take.

Don’t let “what if’s” tie you to your past. Use the power of “what if’s” to propel you on to the future you want.

You have the opportunity to create the life you want. Dream it. Act on it. And make it happen.

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Vicky Townsend is the proud mother of two amazing children, Kristen and Connor, and mother to two incredibly cute, and yet completely ill mannered dauschunds, Alfalfa and Froggy. Vicky is president and CEO of Inspiration University. Through Inspiration University, Vicky is able to help thousands of women across South Florida, grow their businesses, and increase their bottom line profitability. Vicky’s events inspire, motivate and inform women entrepreneurs to be their best and create the life they want. After a series of painful divorces, Vicky’s passion and purpose let her to her newest venture “The Café’ D”, an on line respite site for those that find themselves going through the pain of divorce, providing them with referrals, resources and emotional support at a most difficult time in their lives. She’s also created “National Association of Divorce Professionals”, which connects those in the industry with one another and helps them expand their referral base amongst industry professionals.