I was a real fan of Wayne Dyer’s writing. I learned so much about myself by reading so many of his wonderful books. If you have not read anything by him, now is the time to do it, especially if you are going through a divorce, or suffering in any way. Wayne had always had a way of putting things into such a beautiful perspective that it can be life changing if you allow it to be. I was amazed that even on the day of his death, he was teaching all of us and this is his post from his last Facebook message. Why did I pick this one? Because it talks about what is inside of us when we get under stress and pressure. I know that we don’t like to look at what comes out of us when we are you feeling that way, I know at least I don’t! I had an encounter with my ex husband recently, and it really wasn’t a lot of stress, but you knew that it caused him great stress. What came out of him was hate and anger and bitterness. This article showed me what’s inside of him. When we realize and accept what has been on the inside of us for so long, only then can we make effort to change it. Please enjoy Wayne’s last post;
I was preparing to speak at an I Can Do It conference and I decided to bring an orange on stage with me as a prop for my lecture. I opened a conversation with a bright young fellow of about twelve who was sitting in the front row.
“If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?” I asked him.
He looked at me like I was a little crazy and said, “Juice, of course.”
“Do you think apple juice could come out of it?”
“No!” he laughed.
“What about grapefruit juice?”
“What would come out of it?”
“Orange juice, of course.”
“Why? Why when you squeeze an orange does orange juice come out?”
He may have been getting a little exasperated with me at this point.
“Well, it’s an orange and that’s what’s inside.”
I nodded. “Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you. And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear. Why? The answer, as our young friend has told us, is because that’s what’s inside.”
It’s one of the great lessons of life. What comes out when life squeezes you? When someone hurts or offends you? If anger, pain and fear come out of you, it’s because that’s what’s inside. It doesn’t matter who does the squeezing—your mother, your brother, your children, your boss, the government. If someone says something about you that you don’t like, what comes out of you is what’s inside. And what’s inside is up to you, it’s your choice.
When someone puts the pressure on you and out of you comes anything other than love, it’s because that’s what you’ve allowed to be inside. Once you take away all those negative things you don’t want in your life and replace them with love, you’ll find yourself living a highly functioning life.
Thanks, my young friend, and here’s an orange for you!
You will be missed, Wayne!