As I sit here pondering my past experience of the realization that I was no longer married to the person I vowed to spend the rest of my life with I remember being TIRED.com. It’s funny now but back then I felt exasperated. Life was over! How was I going to face the people who knew I was married and had a huge wedding at that? Sigh! UGH! I remember wondering “What am I going to do now?” I also wondered “Who am I now that I’m not married to that person?” This is especially difficult to navigate when your spouse was a partner in marriage and in business. It is the worst when people mainly knew you as “his wife” or “her husband.”
I also was determined not to get a divorce because my parents did and I didn’t want my daughter to go through it. UGH! Life happens. All that’s left to do is wallow in self-pity. Next you begin making different promises and subconsciously setting intentions like: “I can’t live without them” or “Please don’t do this to me” accompanied by the incessant “ugly cry”! Another one is: “I will NEVER let anyone hurt me like that again” so you shut down & shut off.
I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to be afraid to TRY AGAIN! Love keeps showing up to HEAL US. The opportunity to love and be loved teaches us that we are loveable, desirable, & worthy. There is someone that will love you right into your highest self! I am a witness.
The question is…ARE YOU WILLING TO LEARN? You don’t have to be ready right away just be willing at some point. In the meantime what are you to do now? Practice loving YOU! Practice radical self-care. Practice being a good friend to the awesome person in the mirror. You will be okay! That’s what’s most important for you to know in your heart and soul at this very moment. You are STILL awesome!